I’d started to feel a little more than resentful about being a stay at home Mum after some plans fell through. I’m a person that just can’t sit around, no matter how much I say I’d give anything to sit down for the morning and watch mind-numbing daytime TV. I have to have something in the pipeline.
I love organising and planning, which is why I loved the challenge of organising a fundraising event from scratch in 2009 in aid of Barnardos. Last year I didn’t have quite so much time to organize so I held a coffee morning as part of the World’s Biggest Coffee Morning for Macmillan Cancer Support. I still couldn’t leave it as just a simple coffee morning. I had to plan more.
I’m a list person. I adore writing lists. I think it’s the satisfaction of crossing things off the list, although I always seem to add more than cross them off. I’m a perfectionist so I don’t do simple. I have to push myself that little bit further.
I’m lucky enough to be in the position that we can afford for me to be at home with the children but I get bored of routine easily. Before I fell pregnant with my youngest I’d started to look at volunteering. I wanted to be doing something while the children were at school. Just for a few hours a week and with it being a volunteer position I wouldn’t be quite so committed should things not work out or fit around the children easily.
It’s one of the reasons I took the position of Chairmum for the Netmums meetups. I know how lonely and isolating being a Mum can be and it’s really satisfying getting a group of Mums together. I’ve met some lovely people through the group and it’s growing all the time. We meet up most weeks, this week has seen 4 meetings! I organize the dates so it fits around the children and school, preschool etc.
I currently deliver the local newsletter but it only takes an hour a month and the children often help. I wanted more so I started looking around. This is when I found the New Wolsey theatre ambassador scheme. It involved promoting and distributing print about their shows in return for tickets to some of their performances. It sounded brilliant and I was very excited lining up a meeting to discuss it further. After some consideration it became apparent that I just wouldn’t have enough time to devote to it as I have one or more children with me during the day. I was very sad to have to let it go but then I had one of those ‘lightbulb moments’
I am often remarking to people about how quickly my children are growing up, yet here I am fortunate enough to be able to be with my children every single day but I am looking to put all my energies elsewhere. My daughter will be 7 this year, my son will be starting school in September and my youngest is already 8 months. I can see that it won’t be long before I am looking back wondering where the time has gone and why I seem to have missed so much despite being at home.
My husband’s job is currently at high risk of redundancy and we have spent the last 4 months wondering if he’ll still have a job. Sadly, for us, the company he works for have no idea how much stress and worry they are causing by continuously moving the dates of The Announcement. It’s making my usually relaxed husband ill with stress yet he feels if he takes time off it will count against him. It’s a horrible time and if he does get made redundant there’s a possibility I will have to get a job and then I will have lost the luxury of being around for the children.
So, now I have to work on prioritising and spending time, quality time, with the children before it is too late. My needs come way down the line. I’m a Mum and that’s what we do.