My eldest two are making me feel like crap. Every morning before school, every afternoon when I pick them up AND in the evening before bedtime.
I get yelled at by Middle for no reason. Girl gets the arse over something. I get told 'I hate you'.
Whatever I do is wrong. Whatever I say is wrong.
I'd expect it from moody, hormonal teenagers but not a 5 and 7 year old.
I devote my life to being their Mum but they just don't appreciate it. Sometimes I wonder whether they would prefer it if I worked and wasn't always around for them. I see them as being lucky having a full-time Mum. Maybe I'm wrong.
I'm struggling at the moment, really struggling. My self-esteem is at a low not experienced for a few years, I'm in a lot of pain most of the time and I'm being treated like shit.
I want to stop the world and get off for a while.
This probably won't help one bit, but my boys (now in mid-late 30s), didn't appreciate me and all I did (and it was a bloody struggle) until they had kids of their own. Now they ask me how the hell I did it, because they're finding bringing up kids really hard themselves!
ReplyDeleteIf I step back and look now, both of them have achieved things they wouldn't have thought possible, using me as their inspiration.
Unfortunately you have to look at the bigger picture!
Jan
p.s. I am regularly thanked nowadays:-)
I am so sorry to read you feel this way... I am absolutely sure they know deep down how lucky they are. They are at an age when everything is taken for granted though. They haven't learned to be grateful for what they have yet (if that makes sense).
ReplyDeleteAll I can say is that you should stay consistent over what is acceptable behaviour and not tolerate to be shouted out or treated with disrespect. Maybe, if you haven't already, it is a good idea to introduce consequences to this behaviour and stick to it, no matter how hard?
Have you also tried to sit down with them and explain that it is hurtful to be treated like this by someone you love so much? Maybe pick a time when they are calm and not in the heat of the moment. Be honest with them, totally honest.
They do love you, they are simply pushing the boundaries.
Good luck to you xx
Children are horrible sometimes and they certainly know how to cut deep into our hearts, but be assured they don't mean it and love you unconditionally and will always be thankful for what you do for them even if it takes them a while to realise that or they just are not great at showing it. And just so you don't feel so alone my daughter is a horror and her attitude is appauling she too stomps and spits vile things about hating me and me being the worst mum ever at every occasion and is very rarely greatful for anything because no matter what I do its wrong in her eyes, I try very hard to ignore her behavious but it is draining :( big hugggss xxx
ReplyDeleteI always tend to look back at my comments and think they're a bit harsh! I am sympathetic, of course, really sorry!!
ReplyDeletecan offer no help but can send virtual hugs and chocolate cake. x
ReplyDeleteAww poor you honey!
ReplyDeleteI guess I have all of that to 'look forward to' as my little man isn't yet 3.
Sending you loads of of hugs!
xxx