As those who follow me on twitter know I had a blogging wobble the other day. I considered quitting blogging.
The reason behind this? On the eve of Cybher I returned to my hotel room and checked my emails to discover that my former stepson had followed me on twitter. This panicked me and I blocked him straight away which I now discover was futile as blocking on twitter has no effect. A week later I got an email notification from Linkedin saying that he was requesting we linked up. There's no-one that we'd have in common so it seemed very strange.
My surname is not available on twitter or my blog and I've had 2 name changes since I divorced his father. How he found me on twitter I do not know and then for him to find me on Linkedin just a week later.....well, I was freaked out to say the least. His tweets are protected so I can't see what his account is used for. I thought I could perhaps gauge whether he was likely to be trouble.
We didn't have the best of relationships once I married his father and I haven't seen or spoken to him in about 14 years so I automatically assumed that he was only following me with malicious intent.
With that thought in mind I questioned whether I really wanted him and his family following my life via my blog and contemplated quitting to protect my children. I couldn't see any other explanation for it.
I have since discovered that there is already far too much information about me & my family out there on the web and had I known that when I first began tweeting and blogging 3 years ago I would have blogged anonymously but the damage is done now. If someone wants to find me they don't have to look too hard, unfortunately.
After many, many tweets, DMs and emails of advice and support I have decided against quitting. 'Never let anyone stop you from what you want to do!' was the great advice from Mark (thanks!) and the general consensus was the same and you know what? They're right!
I love blogging. After 3 years of hard work into getting my blog to where it is I am not going to give in because of someone else, particularly when they haven't done or said anything. If they want to read about my life then so be it!
Strangely, when I was being hassled/stalked via my blog, twitter, facebook (and even by mail to my home address!) I was defiant and was NEVER going to let them get to me, even when it was suggested I lay low for a few months. I just couldn't do it and didn't want to do it.
Nothing and no-one can stop me from doing what I enjoy.